Chris Luva Luva wrote:I'm 4 years into "adulthood" and it has sucked every step of the way!
I am not going to address the previous aspect relating to the very important point of resume writing, which others and yourself might address. It is very important indeed.
I will ask a diffrent question that I often ask a number of young people of about your age:
What is YOUR five- ten- and fifteen-year long professional work plan and personal life objectives?
Let me clarify:
What job will get you during the next five years to where you want to go at the end of those five years? Where do you want to be geographically? What position do you have to have to get where you want to get to? How are you preparing yourself during these five years to get to the position that you aim to obtain at the end of those five years?
No 5-year plan? No future.
No 5-year plan? No-10 year plan, no 15-year plan. Obviously, no plan whatsover for retirement either.
It does not mean that -anybody- can plan and determine every step of its life. In fact, nobody can. But you can set general objectives, whether in your own private business, professional practice, sentimental life, salary-wise, etc
Life is like a sailboat, you know where you start and where more or less you want to go. But you never know what kinds of winds, storms or quiet days are going to force you to alter the course. You constantly need to check and make assessments and tactical adjustments. But the final objective and often also the overall strategy is the same (otherwise you did not think things through very well at the beginning).
How come you can plan every bit of the rights and wrongs (very well, I might add) about the strategy and tactical maneuvers of the Redskins and you do not put in place objectives, and a strategy and tactics to achieve them in your own life even more carefully?
Small anecdote: Quite a few years ago, I invited a coach to watch one of the Superbowls with us on tv at a house party. This was MY coach. My buddy. My teacher. My friend.
He said. No, I can't. My buddies and I asked WHAT? ... WHY?
He responded: Because I am going out to practice with the younger team that day. We responded: Come on! It is the SUPERBOWL!!! It is going to be great. You HAVE to watch it.
He responded: No, I do not. BECAUSE the most important thing in one's life is what WE do, not what OTHERS do. That day will be better spent working with others that need me more than those two teams playing on tv, none which will ever care if I watched or not. That is the difference between being ACTORS in our own lives, and being SPECTATORS in our own lives.
We were speechless. We did not have -anything- else to respond. The lesson was clear: If something, anything distracts you from your main objectives, disregard it.
In this case he used the Superbowl as an example. But he could have used a dead-end job to make the same point. Very often we all HAVE to take jobs that are NOT what we want. We compromise. We have to in order to survive. The secret to success lies in trying to build a path within that maze that makes sense to us.
Hard work is rewarded anywhere. Sometimes not as well or as rapidly as we woould like to. But in the end we all end-up collecting from what we planted.
When a young person tells me what you just typed, I say: Welcome to the club. We all went through that. When an older person says that, I almost cry for a wasted life. The difference is the ability to create objectives and implement a strategy that you stick to with enormous determinatioin and discipline to implement. But I would say that it is never too late in life.
That is why I am a fan. Because I have learned to use football the way George Allen and Joe Gibbs see the world. It has been a paradigma in my life. I can see the things that they taught and see how that actually worked with me. I am a person that believes in Joe' system not only in football, but in life.
So, let's start from the beginning. Where is your next 5-year plan my boy?
Edited once. RiC